Jun. 27th, 2009 @ 01:04 am
you missed the left turn on the way to the point, i think.
change being big and scary isn't always a bad thing. but anyone that thinks change is never big and scary clearly needs to leave their rose coloured glasses at home and stop being a metaphorical fashion victim.
I've seen lots of people be too afraid of change and growth to the point that they have lost job options, friends etc and have ended up sitting in a rut that made them unhappy or worse tried to drag people that they called friends into a similar rut because the idea of being without them was too much change they couldn't handle.
When people see change as being scary that it stops them from living their life to the full or worse impacts negatively on the lives of others then that *is* a bad thing. I hope you can see where I'm coming from on this.
And exactly where was it implied that anyone saw change as being so scary that it stopped them from living their life to the full, or that it impacted negatively on the lives of others?
I think you're reading into this a lot
more than is actually there. And you're providing opinions that really do not actually relate to the situation.
The comments about family/friends wondering if making changes was appropriate for a start can increase the whole "change is a big negative" outlook. Also the wording "scary" is a negative, it could be worded in a positive way (eg exciting, a good challenge) if that's what is meant.
Given the way I watched alot of people turn on Nemo a few years ago when he was changing things in his life, I'll admit I do have a perception that alot of people here are against change. The OP also mentions things like status quo and social inertia which of course resist change.
Did it ever occur to you that your perception might be wrong?
Did you read my first paragraph and my last sentence? I give reasons why I have no reason to think things have changed too much, at least in the context of the information presented to me in lj. I know from other conversations I've had with CBR based people (not just Nem) that some change has occurred and this is a Good Thing.
Did it ever occur to you that your reasons may be faulty?
scary doesn't always mean bad. take skydiving for example, frakking scary for lots of people, yet they do it despite that because it's thrilling, and being fearful of it is the whole point.
i'm moving interstate very soon myself, and i do see it as scary, and that's one of the best bits. scary, exciting, fun, different, etc etc. all good things and reasons to move in my book.
i just think you took terri's comment way out of context because i don't think she was implying anything like what you've suggested. big + scary = not always bad.
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