Jun. 27th, 2009 @ 01:04 am
|Change is big and scary
If that's what you believe you'll never really appreciate life or the rainbow of experiences that it offers.
If you go through life being bitchy and bullying people to hide your insecurities you'll never really appreciate life or the rainbow of experiences that it offers either.
So what's the weather like up there on your soapbox anyway?
Oh bite me... and how is my comment bitching and bullying. Given the effort Terri and others made to destroy my relationship and friendship with Nem and others I think you're asking the wrong person that question.
Care for some victim-sauce to go with that whine of yours?
Free tip: Just because you feel persecuted doesn't actually mean they're all out to get you.
Your behavior is loud, obnoxious, frequently abusive and in this case uncalled for. Given the past history
between you and Terri, it's hard to see your comment as anything other than harassment and snideness.
You may call your attitude toward life enthusiastic activism or relentless optimism or whatever you like.
Here, we call it rudeness and lack of manners. Go learn some.
I don't think anyone is out to get me, perhaps you should maybe question why you were so aggressive in the first place.
You accused me of bullying when all I did was offer a different point of view (which wasn't aggressive). If you had actually asked for more information or even been polite in your comment I would have happily gotten into discussion with you as I have done below and above.
It was your comment that was full of accusations and was rude and aggressive - perhaps it is you who is paranoid? If you look back to your comments towards me they are alot more negative and aggressive than mine were to begin with.
And quite frankly if people are going to be rude and bad mannered towards me I'll do the same to them.
The fact that you did not see your comment as rude and insensitive doesn't mean that it wasn't.
Given the effort Terri and others made to destroy my relationship and friendship with Nem and othersGiven the way I watched alot of people turn on Nemo a few years agoI don't think anyone is out to get me
One of these phrases is not like the others.
I accused you of bullying because there is no context of civility between you and Terri in which your comment can be considered. Ergo, it is an attempt to vilify, impugn and belittle. I was aggressive because that is how you stop a bully, they're so caught up in the bullshit inside their heads that they do not respond to logic.
And while we're talking about the voices inside your head, I never stated you were paranoid. That was arthwollipot
. I know all us vile peoples out here persecuting you look and sound the same, but do try to keep up.
you missed the left turn on the way to the point, i think.
change being big and scary isn't always a bad thing. but anyone that thinks change is never big and scary clearly needs to leave their rose coloured glasses at home and stop being a metaphorical fashion victim.
I've seen lots of people be too afraid of change and growth to the point that they have lost job options, friends etc and have ended up sitting in a rut that made them unhappy or worse tried to drag people that they called friends into a similar rut because the idea of being without them was too much change they couldn't handle.
When people see change as being scary that it stops them from living their life to the full or worse impacts negatively on the lives of others then that *is* a bad thing. I hope you can see where I'm coming from on this.
And exactly where was it implied that anyone saw change as being so scary that it stopped them from living their life to the full, or that it impacted negatively on the lives of others?
I think you're reading into this a lot
more than is actually there. And you're providing opinions that really do not actually relate to the situation.
The comments about family/friends wondering if making changes was appropriate for a start can increase the whole "change is a big negative" outlook. Also the wording "scary" is a negative, it could be worded in a positive way (eg exciting, a good challenge) if that's what is meant.
Given the way I watched alot of people turn on Nemo a few years ago when he was changing things in his life, I'll admit I do have a perception that alot of people here are against change. The OP also mentions things like status quo and social inertia which of course resist change.
scary doesn't always mean bad. take skydiving for example, frakking scary for lots of people, yet they do it despite that because it's thrilling, and being fearful of it is the whole point.
i'm moving interstate very soon myself, and i do see it as scary, and that's one of the best bits. scary, exciting, fun, different, etc etc. all good things and reasons to move in my book.
i just think you took terri's comment way out of context because i don't think she was implying anything like what you've suggested. big + scary = not always bad.
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